We talked with the genetic counselor yesterday and got the full results of the amnio testing. And she said that despite what she and everyone highly expected that Amnio results came back totally normal and didn't have ANY chromosomal abnormalities! So even though it's hard to not know why our baby had the omphalocele and heart issues, it's great to know that this shouldn't effect any future pregnancies. It's hard to not have answers for these things... but it's good to know that God doesn't make mistakes and He knew exactly how Asher was being formed in the depths of my womb (the hidden parts as mentioned in Ps.139). I have to trust His ways though they are not my ways.
I do not know you very well and vice versa, but I pray for you daily. I have asked my family to do the same.I will ask my Sunday school class to do the same this weekend.I am so greatful that you have put your trust and hope in Christ. He is the only calm in the storm. As a body of Christ we need each other at all times and we are here for you.Just know that you have folks here in Memphis TN praying for you.
Posted by: Joyce & Wesley Wright | August 21, 2008 at 10:39 PM
you are in my prayers every day....i love you
your sister because of HIM,
sue
Posted by: sue and alan reitter | August 21, 2008 at 10:04 PM
Dan & Casey,
I know it is so hard to make sense of this, yet at the same time I rejoice with you in the good news this indicates for your future family. I think of you daily, sometimes several times, and pray for you every time I remember you. Your son really is so beautiful!
Much love,
Cheryl
Posted by: Cheryl | August 21, 2008 at 05:33 PM
So much of what you wrote in this blog and the one preceding it remind me of my experiences with 2008 also. Grief is so confusing. Just when you think you are one step further in the process, a nothing-but-something thing happens and you realize you're right back at square one. It's with you all the time, yet far away. It seems like it's pretend and then in the same instant, it feels like the *only* thing that's real.
I'm just so sorry.
Here is a quote that I have thought of and re-read often. It sorta puts it all back into perspective for me.
"To be grateful for an unanswered prayer, to give thanks in a state of interior desolation, to trust in the love of God in the midst of cruel circumstances, obscenities, and the common places of life is to whisper a doxology in darkness."
The answers we seek aren't really all they're cracked up to be. In fact, I think it's HERE - in this place where clarity is the last thing we can find... it's HERE where "it" happens. The rest of life really is just a side show. And it's not about passing a test or something. It's about the *real* tenderness of God and the *real* warmth and closeness of Him. There's something about utter confusion and wrenching loss that bring to life what has only been Sunday-school lessons to us up until now.
Hang in there, dear. I hate those days of uneasy tummy butterflies. They eventually stop. Just keep pressing on.
Much love.
Posted by: Heather Dyer | August 21, 2008 at 04:49 PM
Your blog has touched my heart. I can't imagine the emotions you are dealing with. Asher is beautiful. Thanks so much for sharing him and your story with the world. Sending prayers your way.
Posted by: Angela | August 21, 2008 at 04:05 PM
Dan & Casey - I know there are so many unanswered questions and pain. I can only reassure you in how much your family and your son have touched my life and have brought me closer to God. YOur baby is smiling on you and sending love to you daily . He wil always be with you both in everything that you do. He lives with all of us. My love and care to you both.
Posted by: Kim Edmondson | August 21, 2008 at 03:10 PM